Roaming around on the inter-webs I came across this article on SkyNews, I was confused at first glance as the subject just didn’t make sense to me being from the U.S. and not the U.K; “Police probe as fat cards dished out on tube”.
Tube made me automatically think of YouTube of course, but I opened the article and began to read and understood that it was the name for a train/subway system. Honestly it is rather sad and unfortunate and I want to take this moment to talk about body shaming and my own journey in the word of weight. Not to make you think “oh poor Wolfie,” but because I think a lot of folks out there (especially in America) feel that there is a huge non stop struggle over this big dark cloud we call body perfection… beauty.
I understand that my body will never be perfect; now that I am older I know how imperfect our models are and how extremely photo shopped our media is. I have always been a chubby kid. I was over 300 pounds in high school and I was anorexic and bulimic in college. Yes I work out at the gym, yes I do my best to eat healthy, but am I healthy? My blood tests say so… Do I need to lose weight, of course I do! My joints and body would love me for it! Is that my plan? It is, but I do not wish to be a thin person, I wish to be a healthy person for my body. This may be at a size 16 or this may be at a size 14. What I do know is a size 10 on my body is not healthy!
I understand that those goals would still land me in the fat, overweight, obese categories for our social standard of the perfect body but I have come to terms with that purely because I understand the struggle, I know how miserable and unhappy I was at my lowest and thinnest and I think that if you can not love you for who you are and the place that you are right now then you will never be happy with you when you are at your goal weight.
Do not strive for thinness, strive for healthiness and happiness! Once you are happy with who you are as a person your body should start to become the size it is meant to be for you. Keeping in mind you have to fuel and work it right 😉
As for those folks who say or do mean things to people because of their weight; I am sorry that they feel obligated to tell someone that they are fat (or even ugly). I wonder if they ever feel bad about someone telling them that they are too skinny or ugly or whatever someone may choose to say to them. Would something like that hurt them? Are they really just feeling hurt inside and think that by putting others down they would feel better about themselves? Or are they so in their own world that they could care less about anyone else’s opinion? I know trolls exist, I have had some send me horrible messages in the past; does it hurt? Of course, but you have to let things like that roll off of you. What right do they have to make you feel like shit? Also, remember that you taking their opinion into consideration is 100% your control! So choose wisely my friends because there is already enough negativity in this world. Be your beautiful self and care for others how you would like to be cared for!